Comments on: I Miss Her Too http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed reflections on the world Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:15:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Yemi Ademowo-Johnson http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-1761 Yemi Ademowo-Johnson Tue, 23 Feb 2010 08:54:03 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-1761 Ok. First, Kola, your point is made. But I think Abi Idowu hit the nail on the head more. I move in and out of Europe. And like I told many, if truly there is hell and heaven, then Naija is one hell on earth, and my "second home", Norway, a heaven to behold. But the point remains that after spending three weeks, most times, am already longing to be home. Loneliness? May be. But the main reason has always been the guilt: If all Norwegians, bold and energetic, ran away about 300years ago, how will Norway become what it is today? Yes, America is ok. And some Europeans countries are wonderful to live, yet there is no place like home. And for many of us that can cease to be Africans overnight, the hugs and warmth can be gotten from the big blankets and room heaters. We can't but feel lonely! So, to Naija I return tomorrow; to return to Europe in another tomorrow; and leave for Naija another tomorrow, ad infinitum! Ok. First, Kola, your point is made. But I think Abi Idowu hit the nail on the head more. I move in and out of Europe. And like I told many, if truly there is hell and heaven, then Naija is one hell on earth, and my “second home”, Norway, a heaven to behold. But the point remains that after spending three weeks, most times, am already longing to be home. Loneliness? May be. But the main reason has always been the guilt: If all Norwegians, bold and energetic, ran away about 300years ago, how will Norway become what it is today? Yes, America is ok. And some Europeans countries are wonderful to live, yet there is no place like home. And for many of us that can cease to be Africans overnight, the hugs and warmth can be gotten from the big blankets and room heaters. We can’t but feel lonely! So, to Naija I return tomorrow; to return to Europe in another tomorrow; and leave for Naija another tomorrow, ad infinitum!

]]> By: Abi Idowu http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-1274 Abi Idowu Sat, 23 Jan 2010 12:12:58 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-1274 Putting the jokes aside, I get your meaning. Yeah, its great being in a country where there's constant electricity, water, internet, phone, etc. Nothing however beats the feeling of being with. Its no wonder the holidays are the times that the suicide hotlines are working overtime. I remember calling the Samaritans in '05 when I was all by my self and too broke to buy card to call home, that 5 mins on the phone with a random stranger helped restored my sanity. Over here, you can really be in a crowd and yet be alone, even when you reach out, the response might not be freindly, dangerous even. Its sometimes the reason (not that I would ever advocate it though) why people stay in a bad relationship, they know its bad , but rather in one where you argue with someone, than on your own, watching TV and soaking garri while tears drip into your bowl. Putting the jokes aside, I get your meaning. Yeah, its great being in a country where there’s constant electricity, water, internet, phone, etc. Nothing however beats the feeling of being with. Its no wonder the holidays are the times that the suicide hotlines are working overtime. I remember calling the Samaritans in ’05 when I was all by my self and too broke to buy card to call home, that 5 mins on the phone with a random stranger helped restored my sanity.
Over here, you can really be in a crowd and yet be alone, even when you reach out, the response might not be freindly, dangerous even. Its sometimes the reason (not that I would ever advocate it though) why people stay in a bad relationship, they know its bad , but rather in one where you argue with someone, than on your own, watching TV and soaking garri while tears drip into your bowl.

]]> By: Bola http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-728 Bola Wed, 16 Dec 2009 22:33:40 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-728 Which room? And is your girl in here too? :P Which room? And is your girl in here too? :P

]]> By: Kola Tubosun http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-725 Kola Tubosun Wed, 16 Dec 2009 15:20:58 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-725 You gat jokes, eh? ;) You gat jokes, eh? ;)

]]> By: Buki http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-724 Buki Wed, 16 Dec 2009 11:21:45 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-724 Eee ya! Now to have to defend your thoughts again! Facts: You are far from "the huggable" You are human You don't plan to travel that far... for now Its winter. Suggestions: 1. Bury yourself in your books (deeper this time) 2. Mingle, that is, take Yemi Adesanya's advice above 3. Join that club Bolaji Rosiji just left 4. Encourage yourself in the Lord. Eeya, You are not born again, so you do not know what that means. Eeya. Eee ya! Now to have to defend your thoughts again!
Facts:
You are far from “the huggable”
You are human
You don’t plan to travel that far… for now
Its winter.
Suggestions:
1. Bury yourself in your books (deeper this time)
2. Mingle, that is, take Yemi Adesanya’s advice above
3. Join that club Bolaji Rosiji just left
4. Encourage yourself in the Lord.
Eeya, You are not born again, so you do not know what that means. Eeya.

]]> By: Kola Tubosun http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-650 Kola Tubosun Fri, 04 Dec 2009 04:16:22 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-650 Whew! And this argument keeps on coming back... that to be lonely in "heaven" is better than to be happy in "hell". Okay, maybe it's been oversimplified in this comparison of mine, especially since America and Nigeria are not as diametrically dissimilar like heaven and hell, and I don't think that loneliness has anything to do with wherever you are across the world. Those who are truly in exile know that the feeling of being far from their home can't really be compensated for by technological advancement...unlimited internet, Fox news, hamburgers or the Red Sox game. <br /><br /><br /> That being said, let me state for the record that I am not depressed. Neither am I deliriously desirous of Nigeria right now as to take my eyes off the advantages, thrill and daily joy of my present experience. I made the analogy in the blog entry about travellers in exile and their desires for home only because I was trying to put myself in the place of someone with family commitment in a long exile, with their family members still locked away in a place where they could never visit, and wondering just how they cope, and what they think about. You guessed right already, I would never trade this experience for anything - definitely, not for a night or nights of warm romantic hugs ;) :D Okay, I've said too much already. <br /><br /><br /> Thank you Rasheed. There is hope for Nigeria, and there is hope for us as humans, wherever we are. Whew!
And this argument keeps on coming back… that to be lonely in “heaven” is better than to be happy in “hell”. Okay, maybe it’s been oversimplified in this comparison of mine, especially since America and Nigeria are not as diametrically dissimilar like heaven and hell, and I don’t think that loneliness has anything to do with wherever you are across the world. Those who are truly in exile know that the feeling of being far from their home can’t really be compensated for by technological advancement…unlimited internet, Fox news, hamburgers or the Red Sox game.

That being said, let me state for the record that I am not depressed. Neither am I deliriously desirous of Nigeria right now as to take my eyes off the advantages, thrill and daily joy of my present experience. I made the analogy in the blog entry about travellers in exile and their desires for home only because I was trying to put myself in the place of someone with family commitment in a long exile, with their family members still locked away in a place where they could never visit, and wondering just how they cope, and what they think about. You guessed right already, I would never trade this experience for anything – definitely, not for a night or nights of warm romantic hugs ;) :D Okay, I’ve said too much already.

Thank you Rasheed. There is hope for Nigeria, and there is hope for us as humans, wherever we are.

]]> By: Kola Tubosun http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-649 Kola Tubosun Fri, 04 Dec 2009 04:05:54 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-649 What are you eeyaing about now, eh? What are you eeyaing about now, eh?

]]> By: Kola Tubosun http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-648 Kola Tubosun Fri, 04 Dec 2009 04:05:08 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-648 And, aren't the two of you not supposed to be talking about me when I'm in the room and you know that I can hear you? And, aren’t the two of you not supposed to be talking about me when I’m in the room and you know that I can hear you?

]]> By: Bola http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-643 Bola Thu, 03 Dec 2009 09:58:00 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-643 And I thought she was in the same country with him! :D And I thought she was in the same country with him! :D

]]> By: rasheed http://www.ktravula.com/2009/12/i-miss-her-too/comment-page-1/#comment-628 rasheed Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:46:16 +0000 http://www.ktravula.com/?p=3502#comment-628 i feel you. but the loneliness of a country that has almost everything working for her is more appreciated than the frustrations of hell like place we call ours. it is hot to be in naija as a graduate with little or no ,eans of making livelihood. just be a man and face the loneliness of obama's land with every good thing you have at your disposal.pls, remember that your total appearance changed immediately you landed yankee. so be grateful for so many desired to be out!! LOL i feel you. but the loneliness of a country that has almost everything working for her is more appreciated than the frustrations of hell like place we call ours. it is hot to be in naija as a graduate with little or no ,eans of making livelihood. just be a man and face the loneliness of obama’s land with every good thing you have at your disposal.pls, remember that your total appearance changed immediately you landed yankee. so be grateful for so many desired to be out!! LOL

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